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.DIETRICH BONHOEFFER,Letters and Papers from Prison, 28 chapter fourteenWhat God Has Joined Together,Let Not Man Separate:The Gospel and the RadicalNew ObedienceAnd he left there and went to the region of Judea and beyond the Jor-dan, and crowds gathered to him again.And again, as was his custom, hetaught them.And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, Is itlawful for a man to divorce his wife? He answered them, What did Mo-ses command you? They said, Moses allowed a man to write a certificateof divorce and to send her away. And Jesus said to them, Because of yourhardness of heart he wrote you this commandment.But from the begin-ning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore a man shallleave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shallbecome one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh.What thereforeGod has joined together, let not man separate. And in the house the dis-ciples asked him again about this matter.And he said to them, Whoeverdivorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and ifshe divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery. MARK 10: 1 13s we near the end of this book on marriage, it is fitting that weAthink together about the implications of the meaning of marriagefor divorce and remarriage.For many of you who have walked througha divorce and are now single or remarried, or whose parents weredivorced, or some other loved one, the mere mention of the word carries 158 This Momentary Marriagea huge weight of sorrow and loss and tragedy and disappointment andanger and regret and guilt.Few things are more painful than divorce.Itcuts to the depths of personhood unlike any other relational gash.It isemotionally more heart-wrenching than the death of a spouse.Deathis usually clean pain.Divorce is usually unclean pain.In other words,the enormous loss of a spouse in death is compounded in divorce by theugliness of sin and moral outrage at being so wronged.The Devastation of DivorceIt is often long years in coming, and long years in the settlement andin the adjustment.The upheaval of life is immeasurable.The sense offailure and guilt and fear can torture the soul.Like the psalmist, nightafter night a spouse falls asleep with tears (Ps.6:6).Work performance ishindered.People don t know how to relate to you anymore, and friendsstart to withdraw.You can feel like you wear a big scarlet D on yourchest.The loneliness is not like the loneliness of being a widow or awidower or a person who has never been married.It is in a class by itself.(Which is one reason why so many divorced people find each other.)A sense that the future has been devastated can be all-consuming.Courtroom controversy compounds the personal misery.And thenthere is the agonizing place of children.Parents hope against hope thatthe scars will not cripple the children or ruin their marriages someday.Tensions over custody and financial support deepen the wounds.Andthe awkward and artificial visitation rights can lengthen the tragedyover decades.And add to all of this that it happens in America to overfour out of every ten married couples.Loving the DivorcedThere are two ways to respond lovingly and caringly to this situation.One is to come alongside divorced persons and stand by them as theygrieve and repent of any sinful part of their own.Then we can stay bythem through the transitions and help them find a way to enjoy theforgiveness and the strength for new obedience that Christ obtainedwhen he died and rose again.The other way to respond lovingly and caringly is to articulate a What God Has Joined Together 159hatred of divorce, and why it is against the will of God, and do all wecan biblically to keep it from happening.Compromises on the sacred-ness and lifelong permanence of marriage positions that weaken thesolidity of the covenant-union may feel loving in the short run butwreak havoc for thousands over the decades.Preserving the solid frame-work of the marriage covenant with high standards may feel tough nowbut produces ten thousand blessings for future generations.I hope thatboth of these ways of loving and caring will flourish in our churches.These two ways of loving are not either-or.Both are happening monthafter month.When Christ Divorces, We MayOne of the reasons that I have emphasized the ultimate meaning ofmarriage so much in these chapters is that the meaning of marriageis such that human beings cannot legitimately break it.The ultimatemeaning of marriage is the representation of the covenant-keeping lovebetween Christ and his church.To live this truth, and to show this truth,is what it means, most deeply, to be married.This is the ultimate reasonwhy marriage exists.There are other reasons, but this is the main one.Therefore, if Christ ever abandons and discards his church, thena man may divorce his wife [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]
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.DIETRICH BONHOEFFER,Letters and Papers from Prison, 28 chapter fourteenWhat God Has Joined Together,Let Not Man Separate:The Gospel and the RadicalNew ObedienceAnd he left there and went to the region of Judea and beyond the Jor-dan, and crowds gathered to him again.And again, as was his custom, hetaught them.And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, Is itlawful for a man to divorce his wife? He answered them, What did Mo-ses command you? They said, Moses allowed a man to write a certificateof divorce and to send her away. And Jesus said to them, Because of yourhardness of heart he wrote you this commandment.But from the begin-ning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore a man shallleave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shallbecome one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh.What thereforeGod has joined together, let not man separate. And in the house the dis-ciples asked him again about this matter.And he said to them, Whoeverdivorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and ifshe divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery. MARK 10: 1 13s we near the end of this book on marriage, it is fitting that weAthink together about the implications of the meaning of marriagefor divorce and remarriage.For many of you who have walked througha divorce and are now single or remarried, or whose parents weredivorced, or some other loved one, the mere mention of the word carries 158 This Momentary Marriagea huge weight of sorrow and loss and tragedy and disappointment andanger and regret and guilt.Few things are more painful than divorce.Itcuts to the depths of personhood unlike any other relational gash.It isemotionally more heart-wrenching than the death of a spouse.Deathis usually clean pain.Divorce is usually unclean pain.In other words,the enormous loss of a spouse in death is compounded in divorce by theugliness of sin and moral outrage at being so wronged.The Devastation of DivorceIt is often long years in coming, and long years in the settlement andin the adjustment.The upheaval of life is immeasurable.The sense offailure and guilt and fear can torture the soul.Like the psalmist, nightafter night a spouse falls asleep with tears (Ps.6:6).Work performance ishindered.People don t know how to relate to you anymore, and friendsstart to withdraw.You can feel like you wear a big scarlet D on yourchest.The loneliness is not like the loneliness of being a widow or awidower or a person who has never been married.It is in a class by itself.(Which is one reason why so many divorced people find each other.)A sense that the future has been devastated can be all-consuming.Courtroom controversy compounds the personal misery.And thenthere is the agonizing place of children.Parents hope against hope thatthe scars will not cripple the children or ruin their marriages someday.Tensions over custody and financial support deepen the wounds.Andthe awkward and artificial visitation rights can lengthen the tragedyover decades.And add to all of this that it happens in America to overfour out of every ten married couples.Loving the DivorcedThere are two ways to respond lovingly and caringly to this situation.One is to come alongside divorced persons and stand by them as theygrieve and repent of any sinful part of their own.Then we can stay bythem through the transitions and help them find a way to enjoy theforgiveness and the strength for new obedience that Christ obtainedwhen he died and rose again.The other way to respond lovingly and caringly is to articulate a What God Has Joined Together 159hatred of divorce, and why it is against the will of God, and do all wecan biblically to keep it from happening.Compromises on the sacred-ness and lifelong permanence of marriage positions that weaken thesolidity of the covenant-union may feel loving in the short run butwreak havoc for thousands over the decades.Preserving the solid frame-work of the marriage covenant with high standards may feel tough nowbut produces ten thousand blessings for future generations.I hope thatboth of these ways of loving and caring will flourish in our churches.These two ways of loving are not either-or.Both are happening monthafter month.When Christ Divorces, We MayOne of the reasons that I have emphasized the ultimate meaning ofmarriage so much in these chapters is that the meaning of marriageis such that human beings cannot legitimately break it.The ultimatemeaning of marriage is the representation of the covenant-keeping lovebetween Christ and his church.To live this truth, and to show this truth,is what it means, most deeply, to be married.This is the ultimate reasonwhy marriage exists.There are other reasons, but this is the main one.Therefore, if Christ ever abandons and discards his church, thena man may divorce his wife [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]